Area of focus

Reading a book by Martin Seligman called "Learned Optimism."

In it he says that women are twice as likely than men to suffer from depression.

Men are three to four times as likely to be alcoholics.

Adversities happen to us all.

He observes that women tend to "ruminate" about problems past and present. They tend to mull them over and dwell on them. They tend to be pessimistic when thinking about them.

Men tend to distract themselves with alcohol or with activity.

He says and demonstrates that the better way is to develop an optimistic explanatory style.

That is A=Adversity B=Beliefs C=Consequences.

When one changes, challenges, one's beliefs about the causes of one's adversities, one changes the emotional and practical consequences.

The idea is to ascribe "Temporary, Limited, External" to the bad events and "Permanent, Pervasive, Personal" TO THE GOOD EVENTS. Not the other way around.

Read the comments after the Hellen Keller Post.

Follow the Profiles to their Blogs.

You will find two optimistic people, who obviously have had their adversities at some stage, who focus on the upbeat side of life.

Zig Ziglar said you can go to the best city in the world and find some of the worst people in the world.

Or you can go to the worst city in the world and find some of the best people this world has ever known.

The choice, the focus, is of my own making.